Hey Natft, it's definitely a male and looks to be a triple red. TheCommunityCichlid could give you a more positive ID. If you go to the thread 'Dwarf Cichlids!' and go to page 38 you will see TheCommunityCichlid's YouTube links. His cacatuoides looks like yours
Really? That's weird. The females are not as colourful on their fins and tails.
Maybe they got them at a really young age?