well here is a update on my rams. all 3 are in the 40G still. no signs of stress. no ich. they are eating great. the female still hasnt picked a male to mate with. she swim with both of them. they really dont buttheads as much as in the beginning. it more of i will chase you around the tank the next you can chase me around the tank and this is the males. female seems to be looking for a place to call here own or to spawn here belly is very pink at time.