I'm not sure where your getting the information about fish calming down as they age because that's utter nonsense, aggression starts to peak when the fish reaches sexual maturity which depending on species is 6-18 months on average. This behavior doesn't change as the fish ages, it starts and continues until death.
Yes, but they asexual without the presence of a spawning atmosphere, hence people 'venting' their oscars.... My information is coming from what I have experienced with this species. When they are fry up to 3 inches they are actually pretty social with others of similar size. They start maturing after 3 inches, like a tweenager, and become aggressive at feeding time to start with, around 5 or 6 inches they start displaying, claiming territory, wanting to spawn, after they reach their "slow grow" period, usually at about 10 inches, they become sub adults and stop most of their wild aggression calms down quite a bit- as long as you are keeping perfect standards for species. I've raised and nursed back to health this quickly evolving pet. My Gino used to massacre everything I tried to keep him with, he's now in my 150g black water cichlid community tank- I use kepata leaves, black water extract and/or bog wood tea, depending on what's available to me, hence the tea colored water. I got him a friend once he stopped ripping the skin off my fingers at feedings, her name's piggy, she got stuck in an ornament and had to be chiseled out- regardless, she was 4 1/2 inches at the time and is now 7-8 inches, all I have to do to stop their mating aggression is alter the temperature by a couple degrees and move my decor around. Yes, I have witnessed the forever growing aggression of some ca/ sa cichlids, but to be perfectly honest, my personal experiences have taught me that most of the bad rep these lunkers get is from their African counterparts. I have been keeping amazon exotics for the better part of 25 years, my eldest oscars are in a 400g indoor pond, I have 2 that I raised from eggs, oscar and bob, they are both about 18-20 inches, and are 9 years old. So I may not have any written documents substantiating my info, I know what I've experienced
I get my prized fish for free because they are "dead" when I take them home- I'm sorry you haven't had the chance to witness the less aggressive side of older NW cichlids. They are wonderful biotope showcases!!!