Thanks jchillin! Widow ram seems to be okay, she will have a good life in my 29. I might try to see if I can get her to pair up again, but it's doubtful.
I felt like the luckiest aquarist in the world having such spawning success with such a 'difficult' fish. It made me feel like I could be successful with any fish I wanted. I am so proud of my ram babies it almost hurts.....they are def. more special to me now more than ever!
In the meantime, I've been scrutinizing my 55 and it looks like my Apistos have been VERY busy. Both the trifasciata and cacatuoides have been working overtime. Everytime I look in there there are more fish than what I had before. Seems they've all been spawning in secret and raising the fry under the radar. 8O I'm going to have to relocate some of the babies or my 55 in going to go into overstock overdrive quickly. I'm at a loss....I've never had this problem. It's a good one to have, but I can't imagine how hard it will be to catch some of these babies in that tank.