Forget the lights and the anemone for now. A better investment would be a protein skimmer at this point. I would get one that would work on the 100 gal
that you said you would be going to. As far as tank mates I would not put anything else in that 35.
A good t-5 light system is going to cost between $200 and $500 for the 100 gal
. don't waste money on anything for your 35 that won't work on your 100. I would suggest just "practice" keeping your water good with the tank and live stock you have. You are going to be doing A LOT of water changes to get those clowns and damsels through your cycle. Those water changes are going to slow down you cycle.
I know that it is exciting geting everything up and going but SLOW wins this game.