OMG do I hear ya! I have sat on the floor in front of my fishless tank just looking at it and wondering WHY ME! WHY WHY WHY! I LOVE MY TANK, I bought it for my husband, but I take care of it, and I have fallen in love with it far beyond his attachment to it! I have just been through so many couldn't avoids with my tank that it is unreal. My sump BROKE, that was the worst of it, when I had to shut down my entire system overnight, and lost so many of my fish, then the others came down sick, and died. I wiped out my ENTIRE population and omg where they beautiful. A huge yellow tang; Bubbles, A Brown tang (which aren't brown lol); Shark Bait Nuhahaha, A hippo Tang; (Dorri of course), 2 sets of small mated Clowns; (Merylan and Tom) both times, 2 Mandarine Gobies (didn't name them), and I just cried and cried and laid in the bed for a whole day... couldn't even come in the tank room.
We have our big screen over our tank, so that I can watch my fish at all times. What did survive? My Corals, anemones, and all shrimpies... I love those little guys too. I have the fire red ones. They are so funny. My lawnmower Blenny lived as well. Needless to say, omg his belly is sooooo huge all the time.
I have found that the little black snails do not do great in my tank. I don't know why, but they don't. They clean the glass and all, my the white snails with the pointy shells thrive in my tank and do a darn good job cleaning my rock.
Here is what I am doing. I have velvet in my main tank and I am sure as heck gonna let it cycle out before I put anything else in there. I can't really treat it very great, because of my shrimp, and all of my corals and LR
. So, I have bought one of these very cool smaller tanks that have the pendant light over them. My fish store owner is super cool and she is pulling water out of her coral aquarium as well as live rock, so that I don't have to go through the establishing stages. My new emperor fish came in this last week, and I couldn't let it get sold, so I just said... set me up something new, and I will later put him into my main tank, and make the new tank the more aggressive tank... I am dying for a lion fish.
I live in a smaller type of town... I mean it is Savannah, but there are only two stores, that deal with reef stuff.... but how involved do you think you could get your lfs
owner? Might they sell you some of their real real real established rock and water? Anyway, I just wanted to tell you, I so know what your going through, it is so frustrating when you put all that time and effort into something and some unknown is taking it away. Stay with it though, don't give up. Be more stubborn than your tank is my saying. I added a pic of where my aquarium is so you could see what I meant about having it under my big screen lol.