Well, you are right. Patience is a huge part of this hobby.
I am very patient. Willing to sit another 3 weeks and just watch what happens with my live rock! However, I don't think that will be necessary at all! I did more tests tonight (because I like doing the tests) and the results are:
: 1.018 (but with hydrometer I can't trust)
so after I receive and calibrate my refractometer tomorrow then I will test again around 8:00pm my time. I am pretty sure all I will have to do is a 20-30% water change to get the nitrates down to 10< and will be good to go for livestock
I also changed back to the original single T8 bulb light fixture I got with the tank when I bought it and put a
marine-glo actinic A1602 bulb in it
this is better than a freshwater marineland LED
single bright fixture for the mushroom spongey leather coral thing and the coralline algae I'm sure