I agree, have been reading all night on this and related sites.
I found out that the sand I used is probably good, but I should have Rinsed it first.... to get rid of extra dust and stuff. I like to learn the hard way, hoping it will be settled more when I get home from work and I can do some water changes to help out.
showed me some cool snails that keep your sandbed nice, she put some food out in the tank and all of a sudden like 30 of them popped out of the sand! Was very cool.
Right now I am researching lighting, the LFS
is very expensive for lighting so may buy online. I'll let you guys know my plan before I buy... and you can shoot your holes. LOL