some great points to bring up... I spend more time at
www.reptileadvice.com then I do here but one thing that can happen at either of the sites is people lose patience... Actually I started a topic about that a long time ago... Occasionally there are those stubborn beginners that do not listen at all but most of the time people come to these sites to learn. Most of the time we have some great friendly conversations but something happens in these hobbies. After seeing things done wrong, animals mistreated, mis-information, and a huge number of other frustrating things, people get a little bitter and frustrated and sometimes take it out on the new person that really hasn't a clue. I wont give any specifics but I've participated in conversations here and on the other sites where someone comes in looking for help, explains the situation, and the first things they get to hear are "HEY, you did that wrong" or "Stop doing that". Sometimes it takes a little straightforward ranting to get through to someone but most often it takes a little explaining. Sometimes I think people get sick of explaining the same things over and over again, which is understandable, but that's just something that needs to be done. Those same old mistakes are going to be made over, and over, and over, and over again.
I got into an almost heated discussion on
UV lighting and I got a few people frustrated before I finally got them to understand that all I wanted was an explanation. When we started the conversation all I got was " you need to" or "you don't need to". I'd ask, very carefully explaining myself, why and asked for details and all they could say at first was they were succesful doing things that way. I needed those facts so I would know I wasn't misinformed and not only that if I was faced with the question myself, now I can give a similar explanation instead of a yes or no answer. Anyway, what I'm getting at in my mind is again "patience". I think we sometimes don't want to take the time to explain something we've already explained. I think when people become a little stressed, frustrated, whatever, and then reply to posts in that way you really run the risk of either turning someone away from the hobby altogether or just from seeking help from us. That's what worries me the most is that someone could come here for example asking questions about their betta and mention the little bowl it's in. It's a bit difficult to not just blurt out what you're thinking but if you do just blurt something out that person might just ignore us all and it probably wouldnt be long til the fish died. Anyway, how many of you actually had the patience to read all of this rambling?
I really do that tooooo often but I have semi-complicated thoughts in my head and I try to make sure people understand what I'm rambling about...
Anyway, I think Seafan's #1 and #4 points are the most important.
All that said, yes I guess I am still talking
, this is a great site and I love the people here. If you are ever stressed and don't feel you can hanlde a conversation too well, come back to it later. One good thing about the number of experienced and helpful people here is if you don't answer it someone else will soon enough. Of course, don't take that as "you're not needed" or anything like that. I think you get the idea though... Ok, I'm done...
for now...