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Old 01-09-2010, 11:41 AM   #1
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Seriously frustrating

So why do you join a site that is for advice, then completely ignore the advice given or become rude when someone is giving advice from their own experiences?


Has anyone else been noticing these types of posts are becoming more frequent?


I have seen some where people were called "stocking police", of which I am now a badge carrying member, for advising that a person has too many fish in the tank.


And another where people were called "complainers" for advising against cycling with fish.


And yet another who wants shrimp but is unwilling to follow advice that the tank is too small to house what they have.


This post is to you, and you know who you are. When you joined this site, there was a posting about the ethical treatment of critters. You acknowledged that and joined anyways. You will get posts from time to time where we will be flaunting ethical treatment. There is no reason to get rude about it, the advice is there because YOU asked. Deal with it.


Now, let's carry on and have a wonderful day with our finned friends.
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Old 01-09-2010, 01:30 PM   #2
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for this post.

Of course, ppl have a right to do with there tanks what they want to, however I stop giving the person advice when it becomes obvious that they already have in there own mind what they are going to do and aren't willing to take any advice that doesn't agree with there mindset.

I do find it amazing how time after time some are told that there overstocking conditions are causing fish deaths, yet they post up wanting to know why there fish are sick or dead and in turn blame it on something else.

And, I'm sorry, I don't bite the hand that feeds me so to speak. If you're here wanting ppl to help you the last thing that you want to do is be rude to them for doing so. That just says "I don't want to learn". Why should we waste our time trying to teach or give advise to someone that doesn't appreciate it.

Where do I go my badge?? LOL.
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Old 01-09-2010, 01:37 PM   #3
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*lol* I gave myself a badge. I had seen a post where two good responders were called "stocking police" so I claimed myself as one too since I agreed that the problems were stocking related.
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Old 01-09-2010, 03:42 PM   #4
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As one of the new members here, I just want to say please don't stop offering advice! I know what you're talking about though. I've dealt with that on other forums, non fish related, and members like that don't stay members for very long.

I'm not new to aquariums, but I am new to the planted/lighting side of it. The members on here have steered me in a good direction so far, and I'm grateful for that.
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Old 01-09-2010, 04:02 PM   #5
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Thanks for those thoughtful post. I get the so called end of the barrel every now and again. Some people just can't wait to post against those post and seem to only post on those types of comments. It hit's me like a grain of salt and I also refuse to make a comment to that poster because that is what he/she is waiting for. You guys are correct, we don't get paid for our Knowledge and time. We do it for the love of the hobby and that says it all!
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Sometimes despite our best intentions, others ignore us or consider us abrasive when we are just trying to help. All we can do is shrug it off and know that we are doing our best for our finned friends that we can.

It is people like you all that make this site the best on the net!
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I would not take it so personal. When it comes to giving advice all you can do is offer your advice and experience and then it`s on them if they use it or not. You cant make them use it but you can give your advice and experience to them and do the best you can do when you do give it to them. When someone ask a question then everyone has the opportunity to post. Whether they like the answer or not. They can just filter out what they want to accept and go from there. No rudeness will be tolerated at this site.
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Old 01-09-2010, 05:37 PM   #8
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it's pretty much typical for any forum I've frequented. it wasn't the OP that came in with the accusations of "_________ police" theres always that person that gets their feathers ruffled by something.

I will say however that that the OP was conscientious enough to come here to look for more information, and the response was a bit heavy handed. I am almost afraid to post my stocking list. no pacus or tin foils. I am not going to play the mediator role. but my $.02
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I don't get why people do it. If you come for advice then your gonna get it, no matter how bad you were doing. Just push through it and fess up. First you have to admit you made a mistake to fix it.
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+1 for this post. I am fairly new and I MUCH appreciate the help I have gotten on this site! The "Stocking Police" that have been mentioned have been VERY helpful to me, and I will listen to whatever they have to say!
I am also on another site, and a kid had gotten a puffer fish, and when I told him that it would eventually need more and more salt, he was alright about it. Then he went and bought another one, which is fine. THEN 6 days ago, he comes on and says "Ok, I also bought an oscar to go with my puffers." I told him they can't stay together, he told me they got along, and then was posting on other posts that they were compatible. AGGH! And THEN he comes on 3 days ago and says that he took the oscar out and put him in a new tank like we suggested, but he got a balloon molly to put in with the puffers! After I told him that the puffers might possibly kill the molly, he deleted me as his friend and said "Just tell me how to get them to eat." Wow.....Anyway, sorry for ranting.
Like I said before, I appreciate the help A LOT. Keep it coming!
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