Originally Posted by Ian086
If you want to offer help, offer help. DON'T keep bashing the OP for making mistakes or not understanding why their tank is in trouble. He/she is here to get help, not a lecture
Only "bad" thing I said was "I asked already but I'll ask again" and even that is really pretty benign IMO
Can you explain to me how explaining how to read a test kit and asking if the OP had read the instructions is bashing them? Because I just don't see it. I think you're being, with all due respect, overly-sensitive on someone else's behalf, whom I seriously don't believe I've offended at this point. Nor have I tried to.
Msalmony- can you tell me what kind of filter you're using and what media you have in it? Have you cleaned all the media at once and the inside of the filter (could cause ammonia spike) or have you changed the gravel/sand out or otherwise done anything that could have upset your beneficial bacteria?
As to your fish freaking out when you do a water change- it's possible you have a high level of dissolved gasses in your water, or something else which is irritating the fish. You could try letting the water "age" in a large plastic container, then adding it to your tank. You would want a heater for this container, so that the water was the same temperature as your aquarium when you used it. This may ease the stress caused by water changes.
Also, this may be a silly question, but have you directly tested your tap water for ammonia? Some people get ammonia in their tap water.