Bah, stupid send button.
Anyway, if doing the fishless cycle has taught me anything, its patience. A watched tank never cycles and most things that went Eris.g were either my fault or my impatience or ignorance to 'let it ride out'.
If I can do a cycle then anyone can. I am the most impatient SOB alive. Yeah it took two months but I got awesome parameters and crystal clear water.
Good luck to you all and relax. Let the fish you want be your motivation. Thank everyone who helped get me to this point