Gee, ,I didn't mean to have a "tone".
I wasn't attacking you at all sniffy.. I was trying to see if you were the same person who had the 20 gallon with the sand problem (which could happen to anyone..it was no big deal) to get a fix on your tank size. And Since then, as in 15 minutes ago I found the post. And it indeed was you.
And I
did make a a rather snide comment on a example problem to put forth MY opinion on how erroneous the site that said One loach was. but that was not on you personally. Least not as I meant.
However I will disagree with the "slow:" growth theory. They grow as fast as they grow. Period. So adult size must always be kept in mind when keeping fish. That is how I learned it anyway.
My three clowns that were purchased February04 were all under 3 inches. they are now 7 almost 8-6-&5 inches respectively. Instead of waiting for my custom this July, I had to buy a 40 (they are with community.)
Now that my tetras are mostly adult sizes I have to upsize early again.
Sure..it's my personal problem. But an example of what may be.
And I refuse to think I am such a "natural" with fish that mine grow faster than EVERYBODY else's

My supplier has blues and clowns over 8-10 inches that he has raised to that size in less than a year. His discus and angels are real nice sized too. and I have "watched" some of them grow.
So that was where my comments were heading, that a 20 can't hold the required 3 clowns and the "required" number of angels.
And my "answer" that your lonely onlies were suffering pangs of being single.
But honest..it was nothing on you personally. Certainly not an "attack"
I sincerely apologize that my short way of structuring my sentences came off as being critical. But really, even if I totally disliked you.. I am still only one member in hundreds.. Surely not caustic enough to make you leave a site.
And my "expert" (jeez I hate that word) experiences are in labyrinth fish and goldies..... Just because I am an insomniac and have a bunch of fishes under my name doesn't mean I am anything more than a fellow member.
In apology I will give you some of my Kudos.. please don't give up on an entire site for one opinion.