when you say uncontrollably high, what you mean? Is your
PH high, or does it flucuate wildley?
Does your water softener take normal recharge salt, or the potassium recharge salt?
Are you wanting to grow certain softwater loving plants? Which species do you have in mind?
Do you know what your
GH and
KH levels are?
Sorry to answer your question with more questions!
I try to avoid chemicals whenever possible. I don't even run carbon in my filters unless it is a new tank or a nursery tank.
A water softener works by a process called
Ion Exchange. Calcium is a light metal, and is found in bicarbonate and carbonate forms that make up "hard water", also magnesium is also found in bi/carbonate forms. A water softener works by replacing Calcium and Magnesium "ions" with Sodium or Potassium "ions". Sodium and Potassium are two HIGHLY reactive metals, so they quickly displace calcium and magnesium. With the calcium and magnesium removed, the water is now "soft".
However, because you can't take without giving, the water is loaded with sodium or potassium compounds. Neither metal is particlarly useful to plants or fish - Sodium much less so than Potassium.
So, long story short, in my opinion is it is bad to use "softened" water in an aquarium
If you want to soften your water, you will need a Reverse Osmosis unit, or you can try mixing portions of distilled water with portions of tap water, to achieve the hardness you desire.