They're all the same fish!!! This is my problem...too hard to tell! I keep thinking its a female, but then I second guess. Other than lip locking, is there any way to tell if they're fighting...or pairing? Does the tense, puffing out, etc mean fighting? I just hate for them to kill each other. Plus, my rams just laid their fourth set of eggs. I want to do some sectioning, but not sure who to put where. My huge golden male has red spots (they are NOT color) on his top head, and a red line running from eye to eye, across his nose! He's so stressed, I can't imagine he's gonna choose a girl. I'm beginning to worry he's having bacterial issues, but I'm trying to chill and do nothing! My water is perfect. 80-82 degrees, ammonia, nitrites-0, nitrates-5. Gh
-4, ph-7.2. I hate to lose the big one I'm sure is male....I'm gonna try to take more pics and see what you think! Someone's trying to pair, cause they all have their parts out!