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The head slope on both appears male, and the second one has male coloration. The pattern and coloration on the first is something I've only seen on lower grade females.
And you have two pairs? I don't think adding another pair would hurt. They really aren't that aggressive with one another. I house several pairs together in a tank with no problems.