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When I had a boesmani pair(sold to me as a pair), the female generally appeared more purple overall where as the male had the bright yellow coloration.
In looking at at tank with several or more fish, the young males will definitely have more of a yellow or orange colored tail. Should be pretty obvious, unless you are looking at a tank with only a couple fish.