dwarf gourami and ram will do fine together. Rams are more on the bottom level and gourami are more top level. Dwarf gourami and pretty peaceful fish IME. The larger types can be more aggressive but generally my gourami have been very peaceful additions to my community.
I had originally planned to add a ram into my community with a DG but finding one in my area is just too much of a pain and the cost is too high.
You could perhaps do a single DG, 1 ram, the BN pleco a maybe 7 cherry barbs and another small school. Maybe rummy nose, buenos aires tetras or axelrod rasbora or even your original neons.
Someone may want to correct me but I don't think this would over stock a 36 gallon.