looking thru some of your old post, it seems like you do not have a stable water conditions, plus you state you are just using the standard fish lights that came with your tank. So I do not think you have the right tank conditions or lighting to keep a healthy nem, so your chances of saving it are pretty slim. I doubt it was the strontium, but with that said wc is all your need for 99% of new set ups, the money spent on additives should be spent on salt and wc. I have 6 nems and the oldest is around 8 years old, a 125 and nothing but water changes ever, basic are your friend.
Bleached Anemone:
The lost of color or “bleaching” is a result of the loss of an anemone’s zooxanthellae. This can happen for a number of reasons such as excessive temperature changes, excessive lighting, insufficient lightning, physical stress, excessive salinity, etc.
Just like corals, anemones use their zooxanthellae to feed on light. The other part of their nutrition comes from meat. Unfortunately, they cannot survive solely on captured prey as their primary source of energy. An anemone without zooxanthellae is usually on the brink of death so:
Bleaching can be reversed, but it takes commitment and time. First thing to do is to is to provide excellent water quality and optimal lighting. If you fear your light is too strong, you can simply reduce the photo period and increase the time slowly over a couple of weeks. This will allow the anemone to addapt. When the light is too strong, the anemone will usually hide from it. The anemone should also be feed in small quantities on a regular basis (3-4 times a week) until it’s color recovers. This will keep it from starving since it dosn’t have it’s symbiotic algae to help out.