Awe, that's rough! I bought a juvenile before adopting this big boy, and I still didn't see any kind of agression. In fact, I found my rubberlip pleco eating him one morning. They were about the same size too, just 2-3"
Ok, back to the tankmate issue, I think I've really got my heart set on a bichir now, either senegal or an ornate if I can find one. Second on my wishlist is a gold datnoid? Has anyone kept one?
I also like the idea of kissing gourami, frontosa, yellow lab cichlids, peacock cichlids, blood parrots