Tigerlily
Aquarium Advice Freak
TankGirl said:Now he is getting annoying with his suggestions, because of course he does not do the research. I am going to have to get him signed on to Aquarium Advice so he can do research before he makes his suggestions to me!!
Boy, do I see my situation in that quote! I was "allowed" to get my last tank because they were fish that my boyfriend really wanted. (SW set up because he just had to have a "nemo")... It really helped though when he got his own fish. (Although he has yet to even feed them... ). Now, instead of yelling "NO MORE FISH" he begs for a cleaner shrimp and an anemone! If I have to explain one more time how our tank is not ready for an anemone, I may scream!
Anyway, before he got interested I was "forbidden" from getting more fish or tanks. So, I asked my dad to get me a tank set-up for my birthday - "I didn't buy it honey, it was a gift. I can't just leave it empty..." I set it up when he was out of town so that I wouldn't have to hear the griping. When he got back, all the work was done the set-up mess was cleaned, and I reminded him that such little things bring me happiness. That all I wanted was a hobby of my own. It was sneaky of me (and therefore don't recommend it), but I got my tank and there was no more griping.
Now, he has his own fish, his own interest in the hobby, and even though he pesters me to do the craziest things with the tank, he's no longer anti-fish.
I say try to get him interested in the fish and engaged in the hobby. If that won't work, encourage him in a hobby of his own. Maybe he feels left out.