BTW, did you ever get your ammonia down to ~4ppm? It doesn't need to be exact, but too much higher than that is gonna make for a slow start. I'd do what it takes to get it down. At the beginning of your cycle it's okay if you shoot a little low rather than high. Once you get things moving you can bump the level up.
I know you're waiting on some media from your friend, but even if you have a smaller tank, you can take one of the filter pads, swish it around and squeeze it out into the new tank, and hopefully it will introduce some bacteria and get it colonizing instead of waiting for your friend or for the bacteria to find it's way in there on it's own.
Obviously you don't want to destabilize the other tank, but wringing it out into the new tank won't hurt anything.