Well, the comment about not doing anything until one of the fish dies is really indicative of the type of person you are dealing with.
I hope you have other choices of fish stores in your area. Or just go there for supplies, and do not bother asking for advice. It is a good thing to have GOOD advice from a local source...I can only help you with general stuff, like the cycle and equipment, etc. A local fish guru could help you regarding local stuff...water hardness in your area, the types of pond plants that will do well for you, etc. You may have to go to the internet for supplies. Drs. Fosters and Smith has done well by me.
Is it too late to return the Eheim vacuum? I will confess that I have never seen one in real life, but if I understand how they work they just remove some debris and then put the "cleaned" water right back into the tank? A simple gravel cleaner and a bucket would do a better job, faster, and do a partial water change at the same time...for a whole lot less money! I am talking about your basic gravel cleaning siphon...a length of wide rigid tube attached to another length of smaller flexible tube. Put the open end of the small tube in a bucket (lower than the aquarium) and the wide rigid end in the water. Either suck on the open end of the small tube to start the flow, or scoop up water in the wide rigid end and raise it up out of the tank to get the water flowing. Before the water has completely flowed out of the wide part, lower it into the tank (keeping the open end tilted UP) and the water will continue to flow into the bucket. I wish I could show you this...it takes a little practice, but it's not hard. Then put the open end of the rigid part down into the gravel, and watch the crud get sucked up and out. You can control the speed of the flow by raising or lowering the bucket. Be sure you do not suck up a fish! Vacuum about half the gravel at any one time, and do the other half next time.
I was hoping that your gravel had come from your pond, as it would then have some beneficial bacteria, but it sounds like it is new. You do not need more than an inch...some people would say even less, or none. Your filter sounds good.
I will encourage someone else to step in to help you with the live plant issue. I have made a few attempts at live plants, but goldfish are famous for ripping them up and/or eating them and mine have certainly done that. But some people do it successfully and if you have your heart set on live plants, perhaps someone can help. I do think you need some sort of special light bulb in the hood to grow plants. The light emitted by a regular fluorescent bulb is not the right type for growing plants.
I am not familiar with StressZyme, but Aqua Safe and StressCoat are both dechlorinators. I do not think that you have to use both at the same time. I used to use StressCoat but there is some concern about it coating the fish's gills and making it harder for them to breath. I think this might be more of a problem if you use too much, and I never had a problem with it that I am aware of. I switched to Prime because Prime is MUCH more economical, neutralizes some ammonia, and has no coating potential.
Food is a huge issue, and opinions vary. I like fancy goldfish in my indoor tank, and they are prone to digestive issues. I have found frozen foods do well for me, but others prefer home-made gel foods. I do not cook, so I have not attempted that! Basic comets are much less prone to digestive issues, but I would look for a goldfish food, preferably a sinking pellet. I am not familiar with the crisps...do they float? Are they specifically for cold water fish, like goldfish?
And lastly, the only way you are going to know if the ammonia is reaching problem levels is by testing with a drop-type kit. And you need to know your pH too...ammonia is more or less toxic depending on your pH! I can help you with this, but we need real readings first. Clarity of the water is not an indicator of safety. The stuff that will cause you problems, is stuff you will never see.
And you are welcome for what help I can give. I worked in a fish store years ago, and I really enjoyed helping people with their tanks. And I have learned a great deal since then, both on forums like this one and in real life, so it's nice to be able to give back a bit. This is a great hobby, but I know it can be overwhelming at first. Lots to learn. But it does get easier, once you get the right knowledge under your belt and the right equipment in hand!
CT